Posted on March 13th, 2011 by Angie Eisenbeis
Do you ever realize how tough we are on ourselves? For really no reason at all? I’ve been reminded a lot lately, especially on Facebook, about how much we talk down to ourselves. For example, the other day I saw a couple status updates from a friend about a cake she was making that both referenced respectively “can’t wait to see how bad I mess it up” and “I am fully aware it sucks.” It was so frustrating for me to read these. Why? We all know she’s not a professional baker/decorator. But at least she tried. And she had fun doing it. Now, that’s what I would have liked to have seen in her status update instead of the self bashing.
If you are challenged by thinking negative thoughts about the things you do, I invite you to pick a positive phrase, a mantra you can use, to say to yourself on a daily basis. Some suggestions; “I am grateful to be me,” “I am magnificance in human form,” or “I choose to be happy today.” It can be anything you want, anything that energizes you and fills you with positive energy. Try it on for a week and see how it makes you feel.
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Posted on March 10th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
March is a month to celebrate St. Patty’s Day and the luck of the Irish.
The concept of luck got me thinking about fate and the idea that something is meant to be. How can you tell if something is meant to be or if it isn’t meant to be?
On one hand, it’s pretty clear that the things that flow and move forward easily are meant to be scenarios. But what do you do with the things that don’t move as easily? Do you resign to a statement that sounds something like this, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen.”? Or do you do everything within your power to make it happen?
You are co-creating your life. You are in the driver’s seat. You are the one who gets to choose if something is meant to be or not meant to be. You make this choice with your words, thoughts and actions.
If something you desire isn’t moving forward, reevaluate:
• Are you too attached to the thing happening in a particular way?
• Will you allow it to show up through an alternative path?
• Is it okay for it to looking a bit different than the picture in your head?
• Is there a part of you who doesn’t believe it is possible?
• Is there a part of you who doesn’t believe you deserve to be, do or have it?
After you reevaluate, the next meant to be scenario may become working on yourself so you can fully align with the reality you desire to create.
Happy Manifesting!! And remember to create your own LUCK…
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Posted on February 27th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
“Relationships are the Holy Spirit’s laboratories in which He brings together people who have the maximal opportunity for mutual growth.”
- Marianne Williamson
In each relationship two people, as well as the relationship itself, are always in a constant state of change. If one party “grows” more quickly or in another direction than the other person, or changes dramatically, there can be much stress, resentment and anger. This is natural and sometimes change simply happens in an uequal pace. Each participant in a relationship is on his/her own journey and is simply sharing that journey with a partner.
Healthy relationships are those in which each party accepts the other for who and where he/she is in life. As each participant recognizes and respects where the other person is, the relationship can still grow – but perhaps in a direction that wasn’t anticipated. This can be a threatening concept. Know there is power in accepting that change is a normal part of being in a relationship and that no matter where anyone is, each person can benefit.
Information from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.
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Posted on February 27th, 2011 by Angie Eisenbeis
Could any of us really experience the fullness of life without relationships? Relationships are beautiful gifts we all enjoy on life’s journey. They bring us much joy, and sometimes pain. Still, we would not be able to grow without them.
Without relationships, we would have no mirror to see ourselves. We would not have a sounding board against which to base our own experiences. The people in our life give us clues as to what we believe about ourselves. Hopefully, they are mirroring how much we express our real self.
The first relationship to develop is the one with our own selves. When we are in right relationship with ourselves, we can then enjoy and value other relationships for what they truly offer. Instead of coming from need and lack, we can realize that our relationships are gifts, helping us to relate to others in an empowering way.
The media presents relationships as something to “have” in order to be happy. But there is no such thing as the “right” or “wrong” people for us to experience. All people come into our lives to share with us their experiences and to help us grow. Everyone is our teacher and our student, and we attract people we can benefit from at every given moment.
“Learning to love yourself, that is the greatest love of all…”
- George Benson
Information from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.
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Posted on January 28th, 2011 by Angie Eisenbeis
Well, the first month of the year is almost over. How are you doing with your New Year’s Goals?
As a society, have a tendency to check things off our list without taking the time to recognize that we’ve just accomplished something. We move right on to the next thing. This leaves us with a sense that we’re always working toward something but never actually getting there because that is the primary mode we operate in – work, work, work. Slow down, savor the moment and celebrate your accomplishments – no matter how big or small!
So what can you do to celerate?
- Pause long enough to acknowledge your accomplishment and feel good about it.
- Tell yourself you’re aweome! Erin and her husband say they “kick ass” when they accomplish things.
- Figure out something you really enjoy (like getting a mani/pedi, massage, night without the kids, date night, etc), determine what you will complete and when you do so reward yourself with it!
- Have an accoutability partner that will cheer you on and remind you to celebrate you.
Congratulations for sticking to your goals thus far! Keep going!
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Posted on January 24th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
In becoming SELFish we become our own biggest cheerleader, acknowledge our greatness and our strengths, and learn how to pat ourselves on the back.
As women, we have a tendency to look outside ourselves for love, acceptance, and a sense that our lives are moving in the right direction. It is totally acceptable to tell someone else that they’re great at something. Yet if we say we’re great at something, we may be perceived as conceded. We even deny compliments in an effort to not look arrogant or full of ourselves.
What is this doing to our sense of self? Our self-esteem?
Every time we look outside ourselves or we deny a compliment, we’re adding another layer of “fog” to the already unclear definition of who we are. Who we are then becomes more difficult to find, define, or discover. Most women, struggle with the question of who they are because of their inability to be SELFish. If you’re one of them, learning to toot your own horn is a step toward that clarification you desire.
SELFish Action Steps:
• Define one thing you’re great at everyday. Write them down for future reference and tell someone else what you’ve discovered about you.
Excerpt from my chapter in 7 Points of Impact.
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Posted on January 23rd, 2011 by Erin Murphy
The only way to truly become SELFish is to stop caring what others think about you, stop letting their opinions have more value than your own, and start trusting your SELF!
Have you ever avoided doing something because of what others may think? Have you ever started second guessing or doubting yourself because someone else thought it would work better another way? The opinions of others have a tendency to trump our own and often make us second guess what we think we think. We automatically believe the other person knows more than we do. We even fear the potential conflict if we voice our point of view.
It is okay to not agree with what your best friend, mother, or husband/wife, thinks. When we constantly conform, we inadvertently hand over the reins of our life to the opinions (or potential opinions) of others and shut down our ability to tune into our intuition. It is time to get back in the drivers seat and find the balance between conforming to the opinions of others and taking those opinions into consideration as part of our own decision making process.
SELFish Action Steps:
• Be clear about what you think/feel/believe and why. When you become grounded in your opinion, you can consider the opinions of others without doubting yourself. Sometimes both points of view will mesh, sometimes they won’t.
Excerpt from my chapter in 7 Points of Impact.
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Posted on January 19th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
We have responsibilities galore and to-do lists that never end yet a SELFish woman also guiltlessly includes herself in her list of daily activities.
Many women struggle to find where “me time” fits into their schedule and they feel overwhelmed by the volume of things they need to accomplish each day. To “find” time, we typically cut out our personal activities or we long ago stopped planning time for our SELF. We buy into the illusion that sacrificing SELF is the only way to get everything done.
What is the cost of such SELF sacrifice?
We feel drained, unhappy, unmotivated, unfulfilled, unclear, and inefficient in our lives. SELF sacrifice simply doesn’t work. We need time for SELF to re-fuel, re-energize, and re-charge our batteries for what tomorrow brings. As a result, we’re more efficient in the tasks we take on and clearer about the choices we face each day. Making time for SELF is a priority and to reframe how we see “me-time”, we typically need to schedule it.
SELFish Action Steps:
• Schedule time for you. Get out your calendar and schedule it as an appointment to do something for you – meditation, exercise, reading a book, get a massage, eat healthy – anything you find fun or enjoyable that is just for you. And doing something for someone else because you enjoy it doesn’t count!
Excerpt from my chapter in 7 Points of Impact.
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Posted on January 18th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
To embody SELFish, it is important to be able to say no without feeling guilty.
Most people say “yes” because they would rather sacrifice their time and energy, than cause conflict or experience feelings of guilt. We’ve all said “yes” to someone, knowing our true desire was to say “no”. Saying “yes” when we want to say “no”, causes a disconnect between our words and our intentions which can lead to upset, overwhelm and stress. It’s okay to say “no”. By saying “no” you’re not only being true to your SELF but you’re also respecting everyone involved.
In order to say “no” without the guilt, you’ll want know what is important to you and if what is being requested fits into those parameters. Make sure you’re choosing to spend your time, energy and effort on the things that matter most to you. It is also important to stop being so nice. If you say “yes” just to be nice, chances are you’ll follow through half-heartedly or resent doing what you agreed to do. People can tell when your words and thoughts don’t match your actions. Also understand that saying “no” means nothing more than saying “no”. You are simply saying “no” to the request, not rejecting the person.
SELFish Action Steps:
• Clarify what your highest priorities are.
• Practice saying “no” to requests that are not in alignment with your highest priorities. Saying “no” to something that you don’t really want to do or feel obligated to do is like saying “yes” to your SELF.
Excerpt from my chapter in 7 Points of Impact.
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Posted on January 17th, 2011 by Erin Murphy
In our society, we have been conditioned to put others before ourselves – putting ourselves first means we’re selfish; that it is only appropriate to say wonderful things about others – talking about our personal accomplishments or strengths is considered arrogant; and to be a yes-woman (or man) – saying no or setting boundaries means you’re not a nice or good person.
Following these norms blindly promotes a feeling of being a “good” person yet the deeper feelings are often overwhelm, guilt, self-denial, and confusion. Being a “good” person has turned us into people pleasers who care too much about what others think, struggle to say no, and rarely make SELF a priority. If being a “good” person doesn’t feel good to you, shouldn’t that be a sign something’s amiss?
With any new awareness or realization that something isn’t working for you, comes the ability to create a new plan. To make “good” feel good, start by going within and give SELF permission to be SELFish. Being SELFish simply means paying attention to and loving SELF. SELFish-ness is necessary to live a balanced, joyful life. You will never fine the peace and fulfillment you desire in life if SELF is never on your agenda.
There are many steps on the journey to being SELFish. In this chapter, we’re going to address the top four qualities and characteristics that embody a SELFish woman.
• Saying No Without Guilt
• Making SELF a Priority
• Not Caring What Others Think
• Tooting Your Own Horn
More details on these four qualities and characteristics coming in future blog entries.
Excerpt from my chapter in 7 Points of Impact.
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Do you ever realize how tough we are on ourselves? For really no reason at all? I’ve been reminded a lot lately, especially on Facebook, about how much we talk down to ourselves. For example, the other day I saw a couple status updates from a friend about a cake she was making that both referenced respectively “can’t wait to see how bad I mess it up” and “I am fully aware it sucks.” It was so frustrating for me to read these. Why? We all know she’s not a professional baker/decorator. But at least she tried. And she had fun doing it. Now, that’s what I would have liked to have seen in her status update instead of the self bashing.
